Before you send a request.
Read how the evening works and choose a Colorado location that you can comfortably reach. Think about what you want to ask and what would make a proposed plan unsuitable for you. Curiosity does not mean you need to attend.
Before you agree to attend.
- Confirm the actual meeting point, time, organizer, and contact method.
- Ask who is expected to attend and how changes to the group are handled.
- Clarify boundaries, privacy, photography, and phone expectations.
- Understand which arrangements are yours to make and which the organizer handles.
- Keep independent transportation and a clear departure option.
At the hotel introduction.
Take time to talk. You can choose a nonalcoholic drink, ask follow-up questions, and decide that the event is not right for you. Shared hotel areas are public spaces; treat other guests and staff respectfully and keep private details private.
If the actual group or arrangements differ from what was discussed, ask about the change before deciding whether to continue. You can leave rather than negotiate something that feels wrong for you.
If you choose to continue.
Consent remains specific and ongoing. A yes to entering a private room is not a yes to every activity or every person. State your boundaries, respect other people’s boundaries, and pause when anything is uncertain. Someone who cannot freely make a decision cannot provide meaningful agreement.
Discuss sexual-health precautions directly with prospective partners before any activity. This website does not provide individual medical advice or certify anyone’s health status.
After your visit.
Take whatever time you need before deciding whether to attend again. Contact the organizer about concerns or questions, and do not share identifying information about other guests. You can ask about data handling through this site’s privacy page.
Still deciding? The guide for women and FAQs are useful next stops.