You can begin with questions.
You do not need to know every detail of the evening before reaching out. Say whether you are researching for the first time, have attended a group event before, or simply want to understand the format. Use the FAQs or contact the team if a question comes before a request.
Describe what matters to you.
Your preferred city, dates, comfort with travel, and whether a partner may be involved are useful starting points. Boundaries can be discussed without sending explicit photographs or a detailed sexual history in an initial inquiry.
Be clear about anything that is not negotiable for you. A location or activity you have not agreed to should not be assumed to be acceptable.
Meet before deciding.
The hotel happy-hour introduction is a separate step from any private gathering. Use that time to speak with the group and consider whether you want to continue. You can finish your evening after the introduction, even if other people planned to stay.
Your partner, the organizer, and other guests cannot make that decision for you. Choosing not to continue requires no justification.
Ask concrete questions.
- Who will be present, and what has actually been confirmed?
- What participant checks are performed, and what are their limits?
- How are boundaries communicated and changes handled?
- What are the rules about phones, photography, and sharing names?
- How do I contact the organizer or leave independently?
Choose a location that fits your life.
Explore Downtown Denver or Highlands Ranch for metro-area planning, Boulder or Fort Collins farther north, Colorado Springs farther south, or Glenwood Springs in Western Colorado. Name your preference when you start a request.